A little while ago, we asked our 3,000,000+ person social media community:
What questions do you have about therapy?
Lots of people responded, and the most common four questions were:
- What is the purpose of therapy?
- What are some red flags to look for in a therapist?
- Why hasn't therapy worked for me in the past?
- How long is "too long" to be in therapy?
So, professional counsellor and Depression Project co-founder Mathew Baker got together with renowned Australian television presenter Hayden Turner to film answers to each of these questions. You'll find the third video below - Why hasn't therapy worked for me in the past? - and we've also included some "key takeaways" from the video below that.
Why Hasn't Therapy Worked For Me In The Past?
Key Takeaways From This Video / Reasons Why Therapy Hasn't Worked For You In The Past
- Just because therapy has not worked for you in the past, we really, really encourage you to not give up on it and to draw big, overarching conclusions such as "therapy just doesn't work for me", "I will never overcome depression" or "because therapy didn't work for me, it means I'm broken and unfixable and I always will be". After all, just because therapy with one therapist (or even multiple therapists) did not "work" for you, it does not mean that therapy as a whole cannot work for you, nor that you will consequently "always have depression" or that you are "broken and unfixable".
- There are a variety of common reasons which may explain why therapy did not work for you in the past - such as, for example, because you were not in a headspace to be able to "change", "heal" and/or "implement what you were being taught in therapy" (for example, because you had "too much" going on in your life at the time). Additionally, many therapists have different "styles" of therapy, different treatment approaches, and different skillsets - which means that it's entirely possible for you to not find therapy effective with one therapist (or a handful of therapists), but to find it extremely effective with another therapist.